Is my cheating wife an unfit mother?

[0bami]

I am in the military and been deployed several times. Over the last six years my wife cheated on me with another woman. It happened mostly when I was deployed and at the beginning when I had no proof just a feeling she told me she was only a friend and I am imagining it. Then I deployed again and she did it again in front of our kids by moving her in our house for a few weeks and my two step children told me that mom had her in the bedroom with door locked at night. My wife denied it and said they were lyng and exaggerating. So I believed it again.

When we moved away to Germany I got deployed again and my wife went to the states for two weeks were I found out she went to see her through one of my stepdaughters. My wife says she is only a friend so it was nothing. I put an keylogger on our computer and found e-mails from my wife to the other woman and from her to my wife. They talk about how they love each other and the other woman wants to be her wife. I confronted my wife and she couldn't deny it anymore and said she would stop seeing her and can I forgive her. I did.

We moved back to the states and my wife started getting blocked calls an I started to check into it. My wife told me she didn't want to stay married cause I always look into her business. Then she told me she had to go to a one week training for her job. I was suspicious and had her followed. My wife dropped our daughter off at her sisters and went to this womans house for a week. I confronted her and begged her to come home, she refused and now wants a divorce and told me she is going to take my child and move in with this woman if I tell the judge I want the child close to me.

I have lots of evidence, ie, phone records, e-mails, statements where she admits to friend she cheated, statement form stepdaughter she moved her in, and a voice recording between me and her where she admits to adultery. Also bank statement showing she was in her town and bought her flowers. Now to the question hope this wasn't too long:

My wife said If I fight for our daughter she will lie in court and say I beat and raped her. (I have a copy of an e-mail she send to her friend saying that too). Can she take my child from me and what are the chances I can keep my daughter with me and give her visitation rights. I hope you can help out.

[earthling1999]

You have to prove she is a bad mother for you to get the kids, that by being with her would put them in danger, you don't have to prove she was a bad wife.

[0bami]

Originally Posted by earthling1999

You have to prove she is a bad mother for you to get the kids, that by being with her would put them in danger, you don't have to prove she was a bad wife.

Shes a good mom and I still love her and I love my kids to. Im just so depressed about the whole thing and am looking for some guidance.